This week, mindfulness teacher and recovery coach Emily Jane guides a grounding practice to find safety in our bodies when trauma, fear, or anxiety are pulling us to escape from or numb our discomfort.
When we are living with a lot of stress or recovering from trauma or addiction, we can find ourselves living in a fight-flight-freeze state, where we feel either disconnected from or unsafe in our bodies. It’s hard to remember, In this moment, I am safe. This practice is designed to gently cultivate a sense of safety and then create a kinesthetic anchor (rooted in awareness of how our body is moving) to start building a felt sense of security that your body can remember.
A Meditation for Finding Safety in the Body
Read and practice the guided meditation script below, pausing after each paragraph. Or listen to the audio practice.
- Begin by finding a comfortable position. You can sit down, lie down, let your body be your guide, and see what feels most supportive for you in this moment.
- When you’ve settled into your chosen position, close your eyes or lower your gaze. Notice how your body connects with the surface beneath you, and take a few moments to really feel into that sense of support and grounding. Bring your awareness to your breath and simply notice the natural rhythm of the breath.
- Noticing without judgment, just let the breath be exactly as it is. Soften the muscles in your forehead, relax the jaw and allow your shoulders to gently drop down. Now let’s take a couple of deeper breaths. Take a deep breath in through the nose, inhaling from the belly. Then extending that exhale with a long sigh. Just bring in a sense of ease and softening into the body. When we take deep conscious breaths like this, it’s like we are giving a signal of safety to our nervous system. Take one more breath like this, inhaling from the belly and exhaling with a sense of letting go.
When we take deep conscious breaths like this, it’s like we are giving a signal of safety to our nervous system.
- Now start gently scanning through your body. As you do, notice any areas of tension or parts that might feel a bit more heavy, uncomfortable, activated, or even in physical pain. Note what you’re feeling with a curious and compassionate awareness. Then take a deep breath and send the breath into that area. Maybe you notice this provides a sense of ease or spaciousness around this part. Or maybe you don’t. Whatever you’re feeling is okay. There’s no right or wrong experience here.
- Continue with your scanning awareness. Explore if there is a part of your body that feels safe, more at ease or calm. And if those words don’t resonate for you, feel free to choose one that does. Maybe you just find that there is a part of your body that feels more neutral and less activated. Gently explore where that is in the body—it could be in your chest, your hands, your belly, your feet. Feel what that sensation feels like.
- Bring your full attention to that place. Notice its qualities. Does it have a color, shape, or texture? Allow yourself to really attune to this part of the body. Lean into that sense of safety, ease, calm, or neutrality.
- Next, expand your awareness to the rest of the body. Maybe you notice there is still some discomfort or tension in these other areas. And if there is, notice the contrast, holding both the tension and the sense of safety in your awareness. Then bring your full attention back to that sensation of safety. Noticing the qualities. Take a deep breath into this sensation. As you inhale, let it expand. And with your exhale, allow it to flow into the rest of your body. Invite this sensation to expand, to magnify through the whole of your body. Notice what that feels like to rest with this or in this.
- Now place one hand on your heart and the other on your belly. Apply just the right amount of pressure that feels supportive for you. This is an anchor, a somatic cue your body can remember. The more you return to this meditation, the more your body will associate this touch with safety. Let’s take two final deep breaths, breathing in a sense of safety, calm, and ease. On the exhale, breathing it out into the space around you. Breathing in safety, calm, ease; breathing out safety, calm, ease.
This is an anchor, a somatic cue your body can remember. The more you return to this meditation, the more your body will associate this touch with safety.
- If you are now feeling more regulated at ease and safe in your body, acknowledge this. Also acknowledge that you have the power to consciously regulate your nervous system. If there has been no change, that is okay. You didn’t do anything wrong, and sometimes establishing safety just takes practice and time. The best attitude we can have when working with our nervous system is one of acceptance and non-resistance.
- When you feel ready, you can gently open your eyes. Thank you so much for taking the time to do this meditation with me. May the rest of your day carry the same sense of safety, ease, and calm.
